Depression -1

When I see these wonderful TV ads or hear about them, I feel ah well how nice it would be if a single pill could take care of all our worries, sorrow, and anxiety. Whoever has written the script or marvelous wordings for the ads greatly lure the depressed people. But unfortunately, the cold truth is NO MEDICINE CAN CURE DEPRESSION, but only reduce its severe effects on us by calming us through rest and sleep. (EXCEPT YOURSELF)!

Everyone has their rough time in life. We are all born to learn something and the rough time in our life helps us to discover the follies, weaknesses, and mistakes in us and to correct them. It all depends on how efficiently and smoothly we can handle them, instead of being very upset and feeling very sad, hopeless, helpless, and being a loser. No, we are not a loser in anyway. What is going on in our life revolves around our past, present and future, and thats why we are experiencing the present condition.

Lots of things affect us unknowingly. All the situations, circumstances and experiences account to our character and nature which forms to be the basic qualities in us. So we should not blame our self for what we are going through, because there are various factors involved. We should not judge ourselves as others do but reason out and find the answers for the questions : Why, what, when, where and how!!! That shows the maturity in us rather than being like a child who cribs, cries, or whines for the things it wants but it didn't get.

So, we need to stop for awhile calm ourselves down, and start thinking. What is the reason for becoming very unhappy? What is that that is bothering me? Am I right or wrong in doing this? How can I solve my problems. Most of all how can I be happy and lead a healthy life? Here is the most important solution. MEDITATION!!!

Meditation, is a very essential factor in keeping our life happy. We should take time to meditate for at least ten minutes everyday. Especially when we are undergoing some kind of problem like Depression. We need a very quiet place devoid of all disturbances and think and gradually analyze our problems, worries and things that cause this hopelessness. And find out the causes for depression.

Secondly, time to time evaluating our-self helps us to progress in life. This helps us to stay away from depression. Every simple, single step we take really leads us a long way to success. We should believe in ourselves, we should highlight the good qualities in us and jot down the bad ones that need to be eliminated. We should accept our mistakes. By eliminating the bad qualities we help us to cleanse our mind and open our self to something new. While we talk about evaluating, comparison comes to our mind, it is good to compare ourselves because we come to know how blessed we are than the others who are in some way less fortunate than us,(for eg. regarding health, wealth, status, character or profession etc.,) as well as how much effort we need to put to come up in life like some other people who really thrive so well in life.

We also need a very good, reliable, friend in whom we can trust and count upon some advise, support and encouragement which can lead to our happiness.


We should also write down our goals in life. We should dream about them, we should do all that we can to achieve our goals and not worry about the results. Unexpectedly everything will fall in place, and make us happy.

2/11/08

Raising Children

Are we raising our children the right way? How could we prevent such tragic incidents in the future? Why these kinds of incidents happen? We are progressing in Science and technology, we are moving forward in knowledge and intelligence! But what is that we are neglecting? Its the Humanism, The true human qualities in us is going to zero! Humans are also called as “Social Animals”- so we are not harnessing the animal qualities in us!

First of all, all the adults in the society (Parents, teachers, professors, principals, business bosses, and officials) should take the responsibilities in their hands. Raising children is the toughest thing in the world! We should show the children the right way set ourselves as a good example or role models for them to follow. When we raise a good child, he becomes a good citizen, where he cares for others and protects the world around him and never thinks of destroying.

What are the things that augment the animal-ism in human beings - Tobacco, cigarettes, alcohol, divorce, extra marital relationship, multiple marriages, neglected children all these habits reveal the animal-ism in human beings. So we should build a strong human world through self-discipline, nurturing the importance of good health with good habits. The root cause for all evil should be eradicated by taking the first and foremost step within us the adults. Slowly small misunderstandings lead to complicated situations among parents, we should never give way for even the slightest negative notion. We should monitor the behavior of our children and any changes need to be thought about and discussed.

As parents we should have healthy and good habits in the first place. Then as children grow we need to guide through school and in home about simple things in life! Its not too late for us to correct ourselves from any bad habits that we have. And the first step is to analyze, accept and rectify the problem or the bad habit in us. Simple truth to eradicate any single bad habit or problem is to tell our mind this is bad and not right or appropriate and we will not indulge or get involved in such habits. We are the boss of our mind but we never realize that and our mind takes over us.

We try to force certain things into ourselves and our children. For example we compare our children to study like the kids who excel academically and push them to do beyond their limit or thrust our goals and dreams in them. By doing so we pressurize them, and there starts the problem. The problem becomes very problematic when the comparison is with siblings. Whereas, we actually need to look deeper and try to understand the level of each or our child and his/her interests and encourage them accordingly. We need to guide them, explain the right choices and the pros and cons and support them, stand by them to grow stronger in their goals and ambitions. Every individual is unique and special, and are born to exhibit their originality. Let us lead them to their destination with real care, kindness and compassion. This kind of sincere devotion to the progression of our children will help them to become a well rounded human being. It will make them comfortable and adapt to any kind of environment in a smooth manner. And to truly become a good human being.

Children should also be taught the value and importance of money. Most of all how well they can use it for helping the people in need, instead of cigarettes, alcohol and drugs. Maybe videos shown with a person who helps others and some tragic incidents (Smoking, drinking and cancer) may leave a long lasting impression in their minds and help them to make the right choices in life.

10/19/2008

Death - II

Accidents happen as we drop things from our hand

So it can happen to anyone 

A life is lost in different ways

But let's not ponder about it

Or even wonder about what went wrong!

Their journey is over in this world

Let's cherish the nice time we had

So they are on their trip to explore other realms

Sometimes our body - the residence of our soul

Is worn out like a torn shirt

And the act of shedding the shirt is called death 

Our soul like the Hermit crab

Grabs another to fit suitably if needed

Or otherwise merges with the Supreme!

Death is only a passport to the other world

It is our friend and not our foe

For it helps us to go up the ladder of our soul's life!

10/23/2008